the “friend zone”
While I realize nearly all my posts are Disney related, I have been thinking about this a lot lately and felt the need to voice my opinion about it. Besides, I’m not sure anyone ever reads my scarce postings anyways! But, when I was younger I used to love being friends with the boys…it was so much less dramatic than girls and they were more fun. Girls were always (and still are) too worried about what they looked like and what other people thought of them. Now, it seems as though it’s nearly impossible to be friends with a guy because they say they get “friend-zoned” then move on with their lives and leave you behind. My question is, don’t they realize you need to be friends with someone before you can become more if you ever expect a relationship to last? Besides, what’s wrong with being friends? Why shouldn’t you be happy that someone believes you are a good person and wants to spend time with you? To me, guys never really want to hang out with a girl unless they think they will get something out of it. But in all honesty, isn’t a true friendship where you can trust and confide in someone something that you can get out of a friendship? I realize that’s not what guys want, and it’s a shame. I often find myself wondering why I can’t find a boyfriend, but then I realize it’s because guys don’t want to start out as friends and I remind myself that if a guy won’t give me the time of day to become my friend, why would I ever be interested in someone like that in a romantic way when they clearly only want one thing? It’s “all or nothing.” But how can you get into a relationship with someone you barely know? Wouldn’t relationships have a much better shot at lasting if you could learn more about each other before deciding whether or not it would be best to date? I don’t know…maybe I’m crazy or old fashioned and this is why I am so lacking in experience when it comes to dating. Don’t get me wrong, I would love to have a boyfriend. I just don’t see the point in starting a relationship with someone if I can’t see it going anywhere in the future.